Author: Stephen
I guess there is no polite way to say it. “I wish,” is victim language.
How many times have you heard or said it yourself? I wish. I wish I could have a new car. I wish I could take a vacation. I wish I didn’t have to work here. I wish I wasn’t fat – in my case I wish I wasn’t so skinny. The lists are endless.
The words “I wish” are a negative imprint on your subconscious. Now when I say “I wish,” I’m not referring to blowing out the candles on my birthday cake. I’m referring to the words in terms of, “I wish, but I know it will never happen for me.” And there’s the rub. And that’s why it is dangerous.
The first word in any motivational speaker or high achiever’s lexicon is “action.” If you want something or truly have a desire to achieve something, make it a goal, develop a plan, go after it, and make it happen. Again the key word is “action.”
It is a lie to believe that any reasonable desire is out of your reach. It is a lie to think that you do not have within you the ability to achieve what you want or need. Take the steps. High achievers work from lists. There are several reasons for this habit. First, it helps them organize their day, helps them prioritize tasks in order of importance. They are more productive. But the most important benefit is they see their progress and accomplishments throughout their day. Positive reinforcement nourishes and builds their strength exponentially.
When you hear yourself say the words “I wish,” stop and ask the question. “Do I want this?” If so, change your mental and verbal language to, “I will have this,” or claim it as yours and say and think, “I have it.” Then take the action needed to get whatever it is you want or need in your life. Make a deadline. Make your list of the steps. And make it happen. All things are possible for those who believe and are willing to do the work.
Bet you “wish” you would have started this process sooner!
Live well.
Stephen
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Author: Stephen
“Life is an exciting business and most exciting when lived for others.”
— Helen Keller
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Author: Stephen
Worry is caused by fear of a future event, generally an unrealistic fear. Some people are predisposed to worry and I used to be one of them. Until I conquered worry, it had been a destructive force in my life. Worry being rooted in fear, and fear, as I have learned, cripples by paralyzing, thereby causing procrastination. Procrastination enables our fears to become self fulfilling prophecies.
Positive thinkers and high achievers have disciplined positive attitudes as they navigate their daily lives. What they dwell on becomes the reality for them. Their successes appear to be effortless as they excel and thrive. There is a reason for their success. They anticipate and evaluate possible pitfalls then plan a stratagem to overcome obstacles. They don’t worry – they plan – they act – they overcome. Each success, in turn, strengthens and further motivates their confidence.
Worry is a crippling energy drain. Again, it is fear that paralyzes and feeds voraciously on itself and its victim.
You can counteract worry and fear by taking the following actions:
• Identify the fear that causes you to worry.
• Write down your fear. Step back and look at it as only words on a piece of paper.
• Identify the worst possible outcome. What is the worst possible thing that could happen?
• Evaluate the options. How many ways can you come up with to eliminate this issue?
• Choose the best option to eliminate the issue. It may take several steps, write out the plan.
• Take action. Execute the plan step by step.
Voilà, the fear is gone and you will sleep better tonight. It may take time, but as you move methodically through the steps of your plan, you will find that you have overcome the demon worry. You are no longer the victim, you are the aggressor. With success you will become stronger. When you overcome each obstacle you will become stronger and see only challenges, not threats. When you overcome each challenge you will become stronger and only see opportunities. Seizing opportunities will breed success in your life.
Enjoy your success today.
Live well.
Stephen
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Author: Stephen
Whenever a new business springs to life, three critical elements of planning are paramount – assuming thought and preparation have been duly exercised. They are:
– A goal,
– A mission statement
– A business plan.
The thought occurred to me, why should it be different for our personal life, not that our personal lives are a business. But isn’t it also important to be successful and effective in our personal lives as well as our careers?
Several years ago a dear friend asked me what I wanted to accomplish with my life. The question stopped me in my tracks. In the midst of running my own business, I hadn’t considered such a question. The question wasn’t about business success – it had a much deeper meaning. “What legacy would you like to leave,” is what my friend asked. After being haunted by the query for thirteen years, one day I sat down and wrote my personal mission statement. Throughout the following year I determined how I wanted to spend the rest of my days and penned a plan to execute my goal. Included with those documents is a journal to record my successes and setbacks. Through the process, an interesting occurrence took place. I began living my life instead of life circumstances running me. Give it a try. With our world turned upside down right now, what better time to ask the question? What better time to start? As you begin your new journey, keep this bit of wisdom in the forefront of your thoughts. Look for the opportunity in every circumstance.
Live well.
Stephen
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Author: Stephen
I saw a bumper sticker yesterday that said ” Humankind – be both”
Live well.
Stephen
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